Kevin Bacon subverted
I am so frequently surprised when I realize that not everyone thinks as I do. You’d think I’d be used to it by now, but nope, it’s always a shock.
Case in point: It seems the most natural thing in the world to me to share my friends with one another. I mean that if I know two people that are cool, I want them to know each other. I make the introduction and I try to facilitate the creation of a friendship that can stand on it’s own. Not everyone thinks this way. Actually, I’m not sure if I know anyone else who thinks this way.
Three examples.
Mary. Mary has been my friend for many years. We’ve had church and work in common, among other things. Of course, Mary has her own life, and I have mine. But I’ve thought of her as one of my closest friends. She got married last October to a man that she’d been dating for a year and a half or two. The wedding was only the third time I’d been in the same room as her husband. Even now, I have not been in the same place as him since the wedding. (I had the opportunity at the baptism of their child, but I didn’t go.) For a long time, I had no idea how serious they were because the life she led which involved him was completely separate and distinct from the friendship she had with me.
Letitia. We’re not friends anymore, but when we were together, she had a virtual parade of friends coming through town and staying at our place. Many of them very clearly wanted nothing to do with me. I on the other hand shared all my friends with her. I often felt that many of her friends were actually rather disrespectful of me and the fact that they were guests in my home. Their attitude seemed to be, “I’m Letitia’s guest so I can do whatever I feel she’d be ok with.” They occupied my space, sometimes my bedroom. Sometimes I was asked to go significantly out of my way to pick them up at this or that airport. One one standout occasion, one of them was really quite free with her derision about my faith. I don’t believe any of my friends ever behaved so ungraciously. Anyway, as I mentioned before, none of her friends (the ones I did like) had any interest in continuing to know me after she and I were over. Perhaps they were just pretending before that.
Lance. There is such a long list of my friends that I have introduced to Lance. And yet, not once has he ever made any effort to have me meet any of his friends. At one point, I asked about meeting one of them in particular. He stated very plainly that he liked to keep his world separate.
So what’s my point? I don’t know anymore. I think I had one in mind when this topic occurred to me last night, but I can’t remember what that may have been right now. I’ll say that often I would like to develop a friendship with the friend of my friend, but my friends always seem to see themselves as gatekeepers regulating contact with their friends. Maybe I really am that unpleasant?
Hump day roundup
Stayed home from work today. Was feeling a little poorly when I woke up and a sick day was too attractive to pass up.
After sleeping several more hours, I got up to do a bunch of laundry and play on the computer. Spent time running Haelindir around Evendim. It was not the best use of play time. Oh well. Got some rep with the Wardens of Annuminas but that’s about it. All grey quests.
About the only other thing I did today was begin week 7 of my 10K training. Did 5 miles in just about an hour. My quads are feeling it!
This evening, I watched Tora! Tora! Tora!. I am so pissed off right now. If I could, I’d probably go enlist tomorrow.
I wish I would have been up to going into work today. There are some things that I wanted to get done. Today’s absence will likely mean that some of those things get delayed by several weeks. Ah well.
It’s not WoW
The topic of running gear/apparel has come up a couple of times recently. Here’s what I use.
Why do I use these? They were on sale and in my size at the shoe clearance warehouse.
Cost – $30
Socks – Hanes Classics ankle socks
Why do I use these? Well, when I buy socks, I make a point of purchasing something that I can wear with just about anything. So I can use these for work or running. Versatile.
Cost – No additional cost as I already owned.
Shorts – Denim shorts
Why do I use this? Well, I already owned the shorts so it seemed so damned convenient.
Cost – No additional cost as I already owned (for like 15 years!).
Shirt – T-shirt
Why do I use this? Well, I own dozens of them and I’d rather not run shirtless.
Cost – No additional cost as I already own many, many t-shirts.
Electronics – iPhone
Why do I use this? I listen to music on it and I have apps that I use for training. I’ve had the phone for a long time and it works for most of what I want.
Cost – I already owned the phone. The app was $3.
So the grand total for all my running gear was $33.
Kiss them for me
Had a rather rough time sleeping last night. Probably too much caffeine last evening. We’ll see how it goes tonight. But, my tossing and turning did have one positive result, I was able to get up a little early. I made it in to work at 7:30 instead of 8.
I’m not sure what’s going on. When I am actually running, I don’t enjoy it. But between times, I think about it a lot and eagerly look forward to the next run. What the heck is that about? I got a couple of friends to sign up on mapmyrun.com so they can track their progress. I like encouraging each other. Today was a rest day so no running, but I did walk a mile and a half at lunch.
Tonight I spent my time leveling my hunter to 44. He’s moving right along. I hope it will only be two more weeks until he is high enough to replace my captain in the Monday night group.
I should be getting my cello back tomorrow. As much as I’d prefer not to do so, I’m going to try to sell it. I’d like to get $450 for it. Know anyone who’d like to buy a cello?
Rain in June
What great weather this weekend! Rain off and on. Of course, I love the cool weather. Thank you global warming!
Mass this morning went well. It was the last time in the old church. Next week, the schedule changes and we’ll be in the new church. About time! It seems like there is some general consensus about how to move forward. That’s good. I’m tired of fighting.
Went for my run this afternoon. A total of four miles in intervals of 3 minutes running, 1 minute walking over 50 minutes. Then I cooked a steak for dinner. Yum.
Here’s another lipdub. My friend, Betty, shared this earlier today.
Missed it by that much
Almost got away with not leaving the house today.
The only time I did head out was to go be the sacristan for the 5:00 Mass. What sucked is that I showed up and someone had already taken care of getting things ready. I hate wasted effort.
But I thought it would be ok since I had committed to meeting a friend at the Queen Bean for some music in the evening. Only problem there was that we must have had our wired crossed, because she didn’t show up and I have my doubts about whether I was at the right event anyway. So, that too failed to pan out.
I should have stayed home.
Flagpole Sitta
Met Mike and walked through the use of the sound system at the new church today. I am excited for the schedule change and moving forward. I’ve been listening to some of the new Mass settings that can be used starting in December. Mike and I are leaning toward the Mass of Renewal by Curtis Stephan. It seems really singable and moves right along. We’ll continue to listen to this and other settings for a bit, but I suspect that we’ve got a winner.
Five of us playtested a new game that Ross and Mike (different Mike) have created. It’s set in the Star Trek universe. I thought it went pretty well. It’s still in alpha testing, but it went smoothly enough. Good times.
Got word today that Starbuck is in for September! w00t!!
Went running tonight. Did about 3.5 miles in <35 minutes. It’s getting easier. 🙂
Really tired for some reason tonight. Off to bed.
But first, enjoy this lip dub.
Lip Dub – Flagpole Sitta by Harvey Danger from amandalynferri on Vimeo.
Upcoming
Tonight was my last meeting as Grand Knight. I’m relieved to be done, but I wish I could have accomplished more. Hopefully I accomplished SOMETHING! I am apprehensive about Bill taking over starting next month. His attendance sucks and I don’t expect that it will be improving much. 🙁
This was a short work week. Monday was a holiday and as is true all summer, I have Fridays off. I’m very glad to be off tomorrow. I plan to meet Mike at the church to go over the use of the sound system, head to a different Mike’s house to playtest a new game, and finally, do my 10K training tomorrow evening.
Plans for September seem to be coming together. Exciting! So far, Rizza is coming for Jeff’s wedding, Dave (and hopefully Rizza and Starbuck) is coming to hike up Half-Dome. The possible plan is to run the 10K on the 17th, do some wine tasting on the 17th/18th, spend a day on the lake on the 19th, and go to Yosemite from the 20th through the 22nd. Much of this may not come to pass, but it sure is fun to plan!
It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark.
Into training for a 10K now that I’ve actually run the 5K. Last night I ran 4.25 miles in intervals of 5 minutes running, 1 minute walking, rinse, repeat. That was a good training! Tonight was 2.5 miles but 3 minutes running and 1 minute walking. My legs is sore! Especially my thighs. Hmmm.
Anyway, I’m glad I get tomorrow off from the running! I need a day of rest. Back at it on Friday though.
This morning, I secured day permits for 4 of us to hike up to the top of Half-Dome on September 21st. Dave is in. Rizza is planning to come to California but refrain from making the ascent, although I have the permit so that if she chooses, she can change her mind. I plan ahead like that. 🙂 Starbuck likewise is not an effing mountain goat, so even if she comes down to California (not a certainty), she probably won’t be up for that particular activity. But again, I’m prepared in case she has a change of heart. I hope they both can make it. My vacation with them and Dave was about the best time I’ve had in years.
Also, I thought it would be fun, if we all got together again, to spend a day out on the lake, so I started looking into boat rentals at Lake Don Pedro.
So that week in September would involve a 10K, a day at the lake, a night camping in Yosemite, a 12 hour hike up to the top of Half-Dome, and probably a 5K for the parish festival, and probably other social stuff including a possible trip to Napa/Sonoma for some wine tasting action. Biz to the eeee!
I like planning! I feel upbeat right now. 🙂
